
I came up with a saying to help me remember what my readers have been teaching me:
Fight VICEs with VICEs. In other words, fight bad horse habits through
Visualization,
Intention,
Confidence, and
Expectation.
Our talk in
Let's Talk about spooking brought about a lot of great comments. Overall, everyone agreed that any breed of horse can spook, but some still felt that Arabians are more sensitive or reactive than other breeds and require special handling.
I'd like to transition this conversation into the topic of confidence. Many people have said to me that horses will behave if they trust you as their leader, if you have confidence in yourself and your horse, if you expect your horse to behave, if you have the intention to make things go the way you want them to go, and if you visualize a successful outcome with your horse.
I do believe that horses communicate telepathically to some extent. They occasionally use their voices, talk with their ears quite a bit, but I think they are capable of sending and receiving thoughts without any voice or body language as well. I like to talk to my horses out loud (when my neighbor isn't lurking around eavesdropping). I've had some pretty funny conversations with my horses, especially Bombay, who has a great sense of humor. He always gets a twinkle in his eye that warns me when he's about to play a practical joke on me.
This morning I was woken by one of the horses kicking the stall wall. I had to roll out of bed, open the side door and yell, "Cut that out!" The kicking stopped the second I opened the door, so I wasn't able to see who was doing it. A while later I was removing Bombay's blanket in his stall when I heard his stomach let out a loud growl. I said, "Wow! You're really hungry." He nodded his head up and down and then stopped.
"Is that why you were kicking the stall this morning?" I asked.
I'd swear he got this offended look on his face, and then he threw his head to the side repeatedly pointing in the direction of Lostine. I said, "Oh, it was Lostine who was kicking the stall, eh?"
Bombay nodded his head up and down. Up until that point I was just yammering on without really believing that he understood me. However, he did differentiate between nodding up and down like yes and throwing his head to the side like pointing in a direction. I decided to test him.
I said, "Who kicked the stall? Was it you?" He held his head still.
"Was it Lostine?" He throw his head to the side pointing at Lostine and followed it up by nodding up and down to say yes.
I then went into Lostine's stall and what did I find but fresh hoof marks on her wall.
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Bombay's communication with me reminded me to communicate clearly what I expect from my horses. One of me least favorite parts of the day is getting Gabbrielle out of her stall for breakfast. She always runs back and forth between the door and her window and spins circles in her stall out of excitement. It's one thing dealing with a 30 or 40 pound dog that is spinning circles in excitement. It's another thing to deal with a 900 pound horse that is spinning circles in excitement. I did finally train her to stand still and face me as soon as I step into her stall. She's good about standing the entire time I remove her blanket, but if I don't halter her, she will still bust out the door as soon as I open it and take off for her food trough at a gallop.
So, I keep the halter on her and force her to walk beside me to her food trough. Still she pulls and throws her head around in an attempt to break free. The pulling hurts my arm, which is now graced with both an elbow brace and a wrist brace thanks to a chronic case of tennis elbow that has travelled between my two arms over the past two to three years. I say whoa and give the lead rope a yank each time she starts to pull, but it doesn't have much effect, and when I try to give her a chance to walk out of her stall without the halter, she still just busts out at a gallop.
This morning I decided to try something very different. Instead of leading her straight out from her stall to the food trough, removing her halter at the food trough, and then returning to the stall to close the door, I decided to lead her out and make her stand while I closed her stall door before leading her to the trough. It's a small change, but something that I knew would be a huge challenge for such a hungry, excited young horse. I decided to do this with the confidence and intention that she would stand still and wait patiently.
Before I walked her out I envisioned both of us stopping and her waiting while I closed the stall door. That way, if horses do pick up on thoughts telepathically, she would see what I wanted and would have her fair warning about what I was going to do. Normally, I would step out of the stall first and step to the side, then she would come out and start dragging me toward her food trough. However, after this visualization technique, she walked out slowly and turned to face me. Closing her door is no easy feat. I have to kick all the dirt out of the way along the runner and dig anything that gets stuck in the metal hook on the bottom of the door out with my finger. I usually have to push and pull several times before it will shut all the way and allow me to latch it.
Gabbrielle waited patiently, and then waited for me to cue her to walk, and she walked beside me. I then worked on expecting her to keep her head up while I removed the halter. I don't want her dipping her head down and eating while I'm trying to remove the halter. She fought me at first, but then I mentally thought in a firm tone, "You WILL keep your head up until I've removed your halter."
She popped her head up and looked at me wide-eyed, almost as if I had said that out loud in a demanding tone. She waited quietly until I removed the halter and even waited for me to tell her it was okay to eat. Wow! What a difference communicating my expectations can make. So often I forget to be mindful of my intentions, and I just go through the motions. That's when the horses take advantage. I have to BE HERE NOW. I have to be constantly putting the right thoughts into my horses' heads to see good results.
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I'd like to hear more about what you think it takes to get to that point where you have total confidence in your horse and your horse has total confidence in you. I'd love to get to the point where I can load any of my horses up into the trailer on a whim, venture out to some location we've never been before, and have a great ride. I know a lot of others feel the same way and want to know what the secret is to having hassle-free horse activities. Here's the type of information I'm looking for:
- How do you gain confidence?
- Do you have any examples of when your confidence affected your horse in a positive way?
- Do you have any examples of when your lack of confidence affected your horse in a negative way?
- How do you regain control when things get out of control?
- How firm do you have to be to get what you want out of your horse?
- If your horse does view you as his/her all-knowing leader, what did you do to get to that point? Was it all about confidence? Or consistency? Firmness? Kindness? Communication? Calmness?
- How do you calm yourself down when something happens to get your adrenaline pumping?
- How do you calm your horse down when something gets its adrenaline pumping?
Thanks for all this input. Your comments help many who read this blog.